Facebook will show the world’s trends like nothing else, the
current trend seems to be Chick-Fil-A and the anti-gay sentiment. Christians
are getting angry because they feel like they are being unjustly told they are
too judgmental, and gays and their supporters feel like yet again they are
being stepped on in a country of “freedom.”
I hate jumping on the bandwagon of current trends, everyone
arguing, no one listening, frankly I like to sit back and laugh at all those
angry self-righteous people. However, I once again have reached the point where
my words will threaten to rise up and strangle me if I don’t type them out. I
have to say that I agree with neither, and both sides at the same time.
First off, I do not understand the argument over the word
marriage, or the argument over “biblical family.” If Christians want biblical
family, and if Christians think fighting in the political arena instead of
fighting over the hearts of people, can get them what you want, why aren’t they
fighting over divorce? If Christians would actually care to talk to the young
people of America they would find, young
people’s hearts haven’t been wrecked by a “sex saturated” culture, or a place
where gays are prevalent, their hearts have been wrecked by divorce, by the separation
of their own parents. Biblical family, is just that, biblical, it no longer exists
in this country, if someone wants to change that, they should start with their
own marriages, and teaching their children about healthy relationships, instead
of screaming about what they see as unhealthy while their marriages rot
unnoticed.
Marriage. “MAR'RIAGE, n. [L.mas, maris.] The act of
uniting a man and woman for life; wedlock; the legal union of a man and woman
for life. Marriage is a contract both civil and religious, by which the parties
engage to live together in mutual affection and fidelity, till death shall
separate them. Marriage was instituted by God himself for the purpose of
preventing the promiscuous intercourse of the sexes, for promoting domestic
felicity,and for securing the maintenance and education of children.” Websters
1828.
This word no longer speaks what Webster set down for it to speak.
Marriage now means this.
Definition of MARRIAGE
1a (1): the state of being united to a person
of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual
relationship recognized by law (2): the state of being united to
a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage <same-sex
marriage> b: the mutual relation of married persons :
wedlock c:
the institution
whereby individuals are joined in a marriage
2: an act of marrying or the
rite by which the married status is effected; especially:
the wedding ceremony and attendant festivities or formalities
3: an intimate or close union <the marriage
of painting and poetry — J. T. Shawcross>
If this is all the word, marriage, means in today’s culture,
I want nothing to do with it. I would give my own definition; Marriage is the
joining of two people, a partnership, for the duration of their feelings of
generosity, and attraction toward each other, after which it is terminated in a
court of law. Christian marriage is the joining of two people of the opposite
sex, the man to be the ruler, the wife to be submissive in all things, as long
as their mutual feelings of generosity, and attraction last, where it can then
be terminated in a court of law.
This is not the biblical definition of marriage, but words,
like everything else, change with time. I will never “marry” I want nothing to
do with the word, or its current idea. No matter how much Christians want
marriage to mean what it did in 1828, their divorce rate reflects that they do
not want it enough. I want a partnership, an equal, mutual lifelong commitment
with someone, something that binds us stronger than law, and therefore cannot
be terminated in a court of law. Would it be nice to have the perks that come
along with a marriage license, yes, but I’m not going to fight for those perks, my
partnership doesn’t have to be sanctioned by my government, and I do not need
any handouts from my government to keep it afloat.
I do not think that the majority of Christians are judgmental;
I simply think they are fighting in the wrong arena. Everyone is entitled to
his own opinion, if the Chick-Fil-A owner does not support gays, then he shouldn’t
be afraid to stand up and say what he wants to say. I like him. I like people
who say what they believe in and stick to it. Frankly, I have never felt more
loved by the people who disagree with me, and still talk to me than I do now,
and I KNOW they disagree they’ve made that clear.
Please, believe in something, please, stand up for what you
believe in. Just remember this, this is a free country and I am entitled to
believe the opposite of what you believe. I do not think Christians should try
to get in the political arena, that is not where they belong. No-where in the New
Testament does it call Christians to storm the government, “Render to Caesar
what is Caesar’s, and render to God what is God’s” I believe is the only
comment Christ makes on the matter.
Should they stand by idly while babies are being murdered,
or their definition of the marriage bed is being defiled? Absolutely not,
believe in something and stand up for what you believe in please. Christ spoke,
not to the government, but to the people. Speak to the people, speak to their
hearts, speak to the women, who don’t know what to do with the mistake they
made that created a child, and speak to the people who you believe are wrong.
Show them why they should want a marriage like yours; show them why they should
want to protect it. Honestly, from where I sit Christians have nothing I want,
nothing I envy, I am not destroying marriage, or family, they are doing that efficiently
without my help.
To Mr. Chick-Fil-A, I respect you sir, I respect you for
standing up for what you believe in. I respect that you close on Sunday’s I
respect that you are willing to stand up when you believe in something. I
respect your opinion that gay marriage is not biblical and should not be
supported.
I respectfully disagree with you, but I still respect you,
and your right to have an opinion. I love your food, I will continue eating
your food, not because I agree with your political stance, but because you make
a mean sandwich, and I’m pretty sure that chicken couldn’t care less that it’s
being eaten by a gay person.
I wish there were more people like you. People who stand up
for what they believe in, I’m sorry for all the hurt angry people who are
throwing verbal tomatoes at you, as long as you refrain from throwing them
back, you have my respect. Not that you care, not that this will ever even
reach you, but here’s my voice to add to the mob, and if God actually wants it
heard, it’ll be heard.
To the Christians, if you want us to respect you, if you
want us to allow you to teach your children what you want, if you don’t want
Church, homeschooling, and the amount of children you have to be regulated by
the government, then don’t try to regulate us. If you want to be able to pray
in public places, if you want law to respect your pickets, then respect our
right to picket, and respect our right to pray in public places, even if it’s
two gay chicks. If you want to be able to speak publicly and have Mr.
Chick-Fil-A be allowed to believe whatever he wants, then we get the same
right. From where I sit, Christians want freedom as long as it lines up with
the bible, and at the expense of the hearts of the people they claim they want to
save.
Christianity is losing this nation, not because of sex,
gays, or anything else, Christianity has nothing this nation wants. Christ had something
His nation wanted, perhaps Christianity should try following Him for a change,
then they might see the nation following.
